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How to Be Fat (In a World That Wants to Destroy You)

queerandpresentdanger:

Writers note: these are some things I have learned after living for more than two and a half decades as a fat person. This list isn’t, by any means, comprehensive or relevant to every fat person. Some things might be relevant to people who aren’t fat. That’s great. But don’t forget that this is by and for fat folks. Some things I am still trying to learn. Some things you probably already know but it just helps to have someone else say them. I hope you find use in some of these things. I hope you can teach me more.

1) Never justify your body to anyone ever again. You have a right to exist. Period. Your humanity needs no qualifiers.

2) Being fat in this world is difficult. Sometimes it can be sad. It will make you strong. But let yourself feel your feelings. When you are sad or happy or hungry or angry or full or exhausted or frustrated or exhilarated or loved or in love. Feel them. They are all valid. You are not a burden.

3) Look at yourself. Make eye contact with you in the mirror. Look at yourself. From the side. From the back. Naked. Sitting down. Standing up. Lying down. Legs over your head. Know yourself from all sides and try to remember they’re all valid. All your stretch marks and scars and cellulite and acne and moles, discoloring and rough skin.

4) Re-learn how to take up space. Fat people— especially fat women— are taught to be ashamed and embarrassed of the space we take up. Fuck. That. Don’t be ashamed to assert your needs. If the booth at that restaurant is too small your abundance don’t be afraid to ask for a table. If that chair breaks under your brilliance… well, fuck that chair. That chair sucked.

5) Make fat friends. Stop hanging out with people who make you feel bad about yourself, either intentionally or not. Don’t hang out with people who shame you for eating what you want. Who want to take you shopping but only go to stores who don’t carry your size. Who treat your fatness and your beauty as if they are mutually exclusive. Who take you to bars where you never get hit on and pretend not to notice. Who diminish your feelings because the fucked up asshole cashier just did some fucked up subtle microaggressive fat hating bullshit and try to make you think it was about something else. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t.

6) Listen to your body. Be aware of its limits and don’t be ashamed of them. Just because your body works differently than others doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Stairs are bullshit. Everyone knows it and if they don’t they’re lying to themselves. It’s ok to take the elevator. Unbutton your pants when you need to. Even in public. Pants are a social construct.

7) Walk with your head high. Feast on the insecurities of those who would hate you for it.

8) If you’re into sex and/or dating: have sex with and/or date other fat folks. Finding beauty and eroticism in another fat body is a wonderful way to find it in yours. Don’t hold the attention of thin folks as a higher form of validation than from fat people. Plus, fat sex is just hot.

9) Reclaim your body. Take ownership of it. Wear sleeveless shirts, short skirts, bright colors, crop tops. Tattoo it. Pierce it. BE in your body. Make it your own. Fuck everything you thought your fatness prevented you from doing.

10) Rethink anything negative anyone ever told you about your body. Know that problems with your body are not inherent to your body but a result of a world that wasn’t built for you. Know that this isn’t your fault. Your body is exactly how it was meant to be. Humanmade structures weren’t meant to contain natural beauty.

I needed to read this today.

tarrad7in:

negz107:

fiseebilillah:

REAL TALK

Mufti Menk dropping his realness upon us.

Dayummmm

tarrad7in:

negz107:

fiseebilillah:

REAL TALK

Mufti Menk dropping his realness upon us.

Dayummmm

(Source: blvcknvy, via scarletmercy)

satelliteshowers:

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 & up. That is a ridiculous disparity.
Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.
So here’s how to use it:
1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:
“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”
2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.
3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.
4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.
5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!

Um, yes. I will be doing this.

Yes. I support this movement

satelliteshowers:

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 & up. That is a ridiculous disparity.

Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.

So here’s how to use it:

1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:

“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”

2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.

3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.

4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.

5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!

Um, yes. I will be doing this.

Yes. I support this movement

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eldynamoofvolition:

supersleepyzahra:

Literally muslim guys could go to s strip club and drink and shit but every other Friday there is a khutbah on girls are losing their modesty and falling into sin.

I agree 110%

(via livebythequeen)

"Fat is just a description. Its not a prescription - and its certainly not an invitation for hate, for exclusion, for ridicule, for assaults against my body. And it sure as heck ain’t an excuse to make judgments about my health or my morality."

Jill Andrew (via itgetsfatter)

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somepalestiniankid:

Dear Muslim men, our sex lives whether existent or not are none of your business. What we wear is none of your business. What we do is also none of your business. We are neither saints nor sluts. We are our own person. We’re not perfect, but we’re not lost causes either. We’re people, and you need to respect that.

itgetsfatter:

[Black and white photograph of a fat black woman with her hand on her chest]
What is Body Positivity? Exploring Fatness, Self-Esteem and Fat-positivity for Indigenous, Black & People of Color
What does it mean to “love your body” when we live in a world that can’t stop telling us we should hate it? Is body positivity even possible for people of color? What are some practical tools we can use to unlearn internalized body shame while recognizing that body positivity may not work for everyone? Come join the It Gets Fatter Project as we explore these questions in a safe(r), non-judgmental environment.When: THURSDAY MARCH 27TH, 6-8:30 PM
WHERE: CENTRE FOR WOMEN & TRANS PEOPLE AT U OF T
563 SPADINA AVENUE ROOM 100, WHEELCHAIR ACCESS VIA BANCROFT AVE
This workshop is open to all self-identified Indigenous, Black, and people of color, whether they identify as fat or not. To ensure accessibility for everyone, please be mindful of wearing scent-free/low-scent chemicals. The Centre is wheelchair accessible with an accessible washroom on the main floor. Please contact itgetsfatterproject@gmail.com for all other accessibility needs.

itgetsfatter:

[Black and white photograph of a fat black woman with her hand on her chest]

What is Body Positivity? Exploring Fatness, Self-Esteem and Fat-positivity for Indigenous, Black & People of Color

What does it mean to “love your body” when we live in a world that can’t stop telling us we should hate it? Is body positivity even possible for people of color? What are some practical tools we can use to unlearn internalized body shame while recognizing that body positivity may not work for everyone? Come join the It Gets Fatter Project as we explore these questions in a safe(r), non-judgmental environment.

When: THURSDAY MARCH 27TH, 6-8:30 PM

WHERE: CENTRE FOR WOMEN & TRANS PEOPLE AT U OF T

563 SPADINA AVENUE ROOM 100, WHEELCHAIR ACCESS VIA BANCROFT AVE

This workshop is open to all self-identified Indigenous, Black, and people of color, whether they identify as fat or not. To ensure accessibility for everyone, please be mindful of wearing scent-free/low-scent chemicals. The Centre is wheelchair accessible with an accessible washroom on the main floor. Please contact itgetsfatterproject@gmail.com for all other accessibility needs.

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Submit your session proposal for Abundant Bodies - Deadline March 1!

itgetsfatter:

abundantbodies:

Just a reminder that the deadline to submit a session proposal to the Abundant Bodies track for this year’s Allied Media Conference is MARCH 1st 2014 by midnight EST!

That’s right around the corner!

Do you have questions? Want to know more about what it would mean to propose a track? Want…

Please submit folks! We wanna see you there!

sord:

draws girls w/stars for the rest of my life 

(Source: fozfens, via heartz-n-fartz)

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lifejourneyblog:

I told myself I was going to eat better in 2014.

I just had 3 samosas, so I’m off to a good start!